Talking About Bisexuality

Anne Griza
Psychologist

An attraction towards individuals of both genders at the same time is what bisexuality is all about. There can be a physical, emotional and spiritual feeling. The tendency could prone to either gender, accordingly with personal preferences. In that, the bisexual woman who likes men but also goes for women.

Bisexuality has nothing to do with homosexuality or heterosexuality. It has its own league. The bisexual one could date or even get married with someone of the opposite sex, although the leniency for individuals of the same sex or all the way round will always be there.

Bisexuality would stand for the balance act stricken between being socially accepted (by keeping up with the opposite sex) and being able to fulfil any homosexual tendency without the hassle of it, to the minds of gay and straight ones alike. But far from meaning it’s easygoing; this sexual orientation has its downside, just like everything in life.  

The statement might carry some truth in itself. Someone bisexual would be more acceptable socially speaking than the homosexual one, despite of what most people say, mistakenly, that the bisexual one could quit fancying on individuals of his own gender when someone from the opposite sex falls for him, better still, start to believe that the bisexual phase would disappear. That’s not exactly right, it could happen, but is hardly a rule.

So unlikely what most people think, to be bisexual is no such walk in the park a sexual orientation. It means a lot of insecurity, doubts and fears just like being gay or straight would. Some folks might come to terms with their bisexuality in adulthood. Others however, might display their leniency since early stage for both genders. Regardless the age it’d strike, getting to grips with own bisexuality can spark hell.

Bisexualism has taken a lot of flak lately. Much like in homophobia, it would be the bias towards bisexual individuals. Stemming from either gays or straights it would mean anything but sheer prejudice.  

Heteros would be biased towards the homosexual side of it and the gays in turn by the fact that the bisexuals hardly ever act out their gay side in public, taking a more conservative approach instead.

What’s more, it’s common knowledge that the bisexuals turned aids into a straight concern as well, given the fact that most husbands and wives who get laid with other same sex individuals do get infected and will infect their loved-ones.    

Therein another bias lays, aids does not belong to a certain group, it could happen to anyone.

To be bisexual, then, it’s not a matter of choice, even gay or straight. It’s down to genetic, social and psychological background. There’s clear and present bigotry and it must be debouched, so much for the raised awareness needed that it’s neither disease nor sin.

Each one of us has a way of seeing and perceiving our own sexuality and it must be upheld.